Welcome to Self Care Stories, a blog series showcasing how different people take care of themselves around the world. In our lives, we often forget to prioritize our own well-being. We hope that by reading these stories, you feel inspired to build your own self-care routines because your own care is important.
What's your background?
I'm 30. I was born in the San Francisco Bay Area. I moved to San Diego for college and never left. I am a dancer, choreographer and teacher. I am also trying to figure out how to make art and my advocacy of mental health into a career. I love doggies! In my spare time, I do more dance projects, play board games with friends, and watch my favorite shows!
What's your definition of self-care or what does self-care mean to you?
To me, self-care is very literal. It's about taking care of yourself. I think there are different types of self-care. Eating your favorite candy bar is great, but so is taking time to look at your values. Self-care is not only about your mental state but your physical state as well. It's all related and when one goes down, the other tends to follow.
Tell me your story. How do you practice self-care in your life?
My story is very long, and I like to go on tangents. To be more efficient, I will tell you that I have lived with mental illness for a very long time. For most of that time, I never thought about self-care. It's a fairly new concept to me that I am continuously shaping in my own life.
I practice self care in many different ways. I try to find the balance of eating healthy and indulging my love of sugar and fat. I have always been a reflective person, which comes in handy now that my mental health is better. Instead of self-analysis becoming a witch hunt for reasons I suck, I use it to help guide me towards the future I want.
I believe that professional help is a very powerful thing, and it has helped me very much in the past. I am currently seeking for a new therapist now. Saying you need help is a powerful form of self-care.
What makes taking care of yourself so important to you?
I didn't take care of myself for a long time. I honestly didn't give a shit about myself. I was alive for other people, and that stayed the reason for my recovery for a long time. That's changed in the last 4 years to where I finally started living for myself, and now I am happier and healthier than I have ever been.
I also advocate self-care to everyone because it can get impossibly bad when you don't take care of yourself. For me, it got to the point of attempting suicide. I don't want anyone else to get there.
If you had advice to give someone else on practicing self-care, what would it be?
Keep doing it. Try to internalize all this goodness you are creating for yourself to combat all the badness we easily digest.
This series was created in collaboration with Self Caid. To find out more information on how to build a self-care routine, check out them out here.